Thursday, August 20, 2009

A Final Farewell

Jasper (June ?? 2008 - August 20, 2009)

This will probably be my last post about Jasper, since there's nothing left to update. I just want to take a moment to thank all those who were a part of Jasper's life - no matter how brief the time - that it made his short life all the richer. Thank you.

I'm sure this news may come as a great shock to all of you who knew him, or at least knew of him. Jasper showed no sign of illness so when he got sick - it felt sudden, it looked painful and especially on my part, was unexpected.

It started only 2 days ago. He was still fine and being his little sh*t self Tuesday morning....until I came home that night and found him not his usual self. Instead of the loud 'meeeoowwww' and 'mews' I get when I open the door, I heard nothing. Huh, strange...that's never happened before. And so I waited for him to greet me...and waited...and waited.

So where was he? I found Jasper in his carrier (his security blanket). When he heard me coming, he poked his head out and studied me, then slowly limbered out to finally say 'hello'. However, his 'hello' was more like intense breathing, a large scowl and quiet wheezing.

It didn't take me long to figure out that there was some wrong with him. I mean, something terribly wrong. A few phone calls later, I drove Jasper to the closest 24 hour animal clinic and waited to see the vet so he could give me some news about Jasper being okay - that this was a bug and he'll be just fine.

What I got instead was anything but. The vet told me that Jasper was possibly suffering from fluid in his lungs, which explained his painful breathing, and thyroid issues. My heart sank to the floor and I cried as I watched the vet take him away as he was admitted into the animal hospital for diagnosis. I whispered to Jasper for him to be okay and drove home with a heavy heart. The next morning felt like an eternity as I waited for news about his condition.

It didn't take long for the vets at the hospital to diagnose Jasper with HCM (Hypertrophic Cardiomyopathy), which in layman's terms meant that Jasper was born with a small heart that over time, couldn't sustain his ever growing cat body - he just wasn't getting enough blood through his system, which then affected his lungs that slowly filled up with fluid. August 18 was the breaking point and Jasper's body started to severely deteriorate.

Jasper spent 2 nights in the hospital in an oxygen room with too many types of medication pumping through his little body to help him breathe and get his blood moving. I went to visit him the first night and man, he looked terrible. Drooling, purple and stoned out of his mind, he wasn't my cat in that oxygen room. My Jasper wasn't there and I was left staring at this shell. So his condition was the pretty much the same as the night before, if not worse. Then I was asked to wait. Wait to see the next morning whether there was any noticeable improvement - most importantly if Jasper could breathe comfortably on his own.

In the morning I got the dreadful call that his condition had not changed. He still couldn't breathe on his own and the only thing keeping him alive was being in the oxygen room and the medication. His ultrasound also showed that a valve in his heart wasn't functioning at all, so if Jasper was removed from the oxygen tank and meds, he could crash at any moment.

Given my options, I was left with little choice but to put him to sleep. As his Mom, I just couldn't let him continue living in an oxygen tank for the remainder of his life, drugged out and miserable. Or for him to come back home with me and have to painfully swallow 4 pills each day for the rest of his life (however long that might be), then drop dead from the blood clots forming in his heart.

So tonight, I signed the paper authorizing the injections, cried for a while and waited to see my Jasper for the last time. When he came up from his oxygen tank all wrapped up in a towel, I spent the next hour with him. The sad thing was, Jasper was quite himself the entire time, which made it that much harder to bear. He looked a whole lot better than the previous night!! Surrounded by his family and friends, Jasper enjoyed our company until his breathing started to become laboured. It was time. At 11: 35 PM, I held my Jasper and watched him nervously and cautiously leave this world. It took 10 seconds. I stayed an extra hour afterwards to keep him company, cleaned him up and prayed to his free spirit to come find me again in his next life - and that this time, he would be healthy and stay with me for the remainder of my life, and not the other way around.

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I miss Jasper more than anything and words can't even describe the pain, guilt and sadness I feel right now, but I know it was for the best. I look around this empty room and it's hard to believe he's gone. I miss his collar bell ringing through the halls, his lone howling and high pitched mewing, his constant rebellious/stubborn/needy self, his "no hugs, not ever!" embraces, his nuzzling (into my armpit...don't ask), his sleeping on my chest and suffocating me with his butt, his crazy toy mouse and laser beam chasing, raccoon tail....everything. I just miss him. But he was loved with every ounce I could give that little cat and I was blessed to have had him in my life, even if it was for just a year.

So lastly, I want to thank you Jasper for being with me and letting me love you. I hope you're well wherever you are and creating a crazy ruckus all the while ;) Then come find me again when you're done. I'll be waiting :)

8 comments:

Anonymous said...

R.I.P. Jasper.
cheer up Auntie So.

Kyle Clements said...

I am so sorry to hear about Jasper's passing.

If you need another cat lover to hang out with or talk to, don't be afraid to call/email/msn/text me.

~kyle

tanyapotter said...

Many condolences are sent your way... from those of whom I have told...
and, as Lourdy said, “He was a beautiful cat.”
*sniffs*
At least he won't suffer anymore...

Bonnie said...

I'm sorry about Jasper, Serena... and I'm also sorry about not getting a chance to meet him either

but i do know that both Jasper and I share one thing in common.. NO HUGS

got you covered there Jasper :)

Lezley Davidson said...

WAAAAAAAAHHHHHH!!!!! I'm crying again, stupid bitch. (grumble, grumble, SNIFF, grumble...)

But OMFG - that pic of Jasper in the laundry basket!!! SO CUTE!! You could do a calendar.... "wink".

Stop making me cry. Stupid Serena, stupid Jasper.

*sniff*

-lezley

Serena S. said...

Thanks everyone for your kind words. It means a lot to me that so many cared for my stupid little cat...ha ha...he was so weird - definitely a character....LOL...and he will be missed......*sniff*

Unknown said...

Serena...I am so sorry for your loss....I'm at a loss for words. You are such a strong person. Jasper is in a better place and he was so blessed to have had you in his life - you are his angel - don't ever forget that.


:::hugs::: call me if you need to talk or a shoulder to lean on.

Petar said...

I'm so sorry to hear that, that really sucks. Poor kitty. At least you took good care of the little guy when you found him. His life could have been a lot worse.